7 Red Flags You’re Dating A Person Who Will Never Put You First (2023)
Don’t let anyone put you in a corner.
byRachel ShattoandCorinne Sullivan
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My ex was one of the emotionally selfish people I've ever met. Sure, when we were together, they put up a good front by seeming to be present in the moment, and lulling me into a false sense of security. Despite the act, I still felt a growing sense of unease and unhappiness I couldn't put my finger on. Once the fog lifted, I realized I was in a relationship with someone who didn’t make me a priority and never would. There are signs your partner will never put you first, and I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to spot them in my own relationship.
While it's easy to look back in retrospect and see what was happening, it can be a lot harder to spot a partner who doesn't make you a priority when you're in the throes of love. That's partly because, in the early stages of the relationship, this behavior is easier to explain. You think, "Of course they aren't including me in important decisions or celebrating special occasions with me. The relationship is new. That will come with time." And you're right, it should. The problem is when the relationship evolves and the behaviors stay the same.
If you want to avoid being with a partner or spouse who doesn’t put you first, then here's what the experts say to look out for.
When you’re in a committed relationship, you deserve to feel like a priority. However, if your SO treats you more like an option, then it may be time to reconsider your own priorities.
More well-known red flags may be abusive behavior and aggression. However, some red flags in relationships are easy to miss. Toxic behaviors like manipulation, gaslighting, and narcissism, can slip under the radar.
Being unfaithful or not honoring the relationship agreements about having other partners, is a big red flag. However, the warning signs may seem less obvious when it comes to emotional affairs or online affairs.
According to Jaseena, “Silent red flags in a relationship are those that are not as obvious or jarring as the generic ones like abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting. They aren't visible but are as toxic as the generic red flags.
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